Oct
15
Written by:
adminsophia
10/15/2009 1:30 PM
Too often we assume that the needs of another are the same as our own. Acting on such assumptions can cause no end of trouble. Learn to ask and tell each other what you really need. After all, when what you long for is warmth and affection, it is disappointing to receive a new set of luggage.
As you become more aware of your sometimes unkind or unconscious responses to someone you care deeply about and you choose instead to behave in meaningful and supportive ways, the quality of your relationship is certain to improve. For this to happen you might be required to identify and abandon some form of behavior that no longer serves you. Whatever change is called for, know that ONLY ONE OF YOU NEEDS TO CROSS THE DIVIDE FOR SHIFT TO OCCURE...
Then, there is a criticism, which some of us have raised to a fine art. The truth is that criticism is poor fuel and causes any relationship to sputter and run rough. Regardless of the issue, being critical usually means that you are denying another for your support. When, instead of looking for the good in a situation, you choose to focus on what your partner is lacking, or on how you would like them to change, you are abusing the heart of relationship itself.