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Written by:
adminsophia
7/9/2008 4:38 PM
People often mix together three absolutely different things – Chemistry, Falling in Love and True Love. “When you realize, there is nothing lacking the whole world belong to you. When you let go of what you are, you become what you might be" - Lao Tzu.
What we call “chemistry” is actually sitting deep in unconscious and is hard wired. It determines your relationships choices for the rest of your life. Because of it, you crave specific types of people and situations whether they are good for you or not. Everyone has a pattern they use in the relationships. You will continue to do this unless you do something to change your hard wiring. Only method that imprints the original primal level, pulls out your core fears and interrupts your original wiring, can change your relationship patterns.
What we call “falling in love” is most of the time just our craving for satisfaction of our wants and needs. People confuse love with what they want or desire, which gets its roots from their Ego. They confuse Love with their reaction to external circumstances or internal desires. They actually even replace that person in their mind with their own image of that person and then they get addicted to this another person.
That has nothing to do with real “True Love”. True Love Starts when you stop wanting and don’t have any expectations. Always run how you feel about another person through your own EGO check:
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As soon as your Ego identifies YOU with what you do, what you have, what you possess, whom you date, married to, your bank account, your car, your body, your look, etc. and you start trying to find yourself in things and people to validate your significance and value – you will never find it and end up losing yourself in it. When you are seeking for things and people with a purpose of self-enhancement, we will never be satisfied. We will need more and more validations to our own identity and it will be endless.
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When ego is motivating you, you create attachments of yourself to things and people who satisfy your Ego and identity, you become possessive and you feel like you are falling in love.
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So does it mean you shouldn’t have you wants and desires? Absolutely not, as soon as you do not think less of yourself the minute this person is gone from your life and you didn’t create attachment to it.
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Pay close attention on how you react and response when people who are important to you are taken away from you – do you feel resentful, angry, insecure, offended, diminished, etc. Ask yourself – Has Who I Am Became Diminished By The Loss? Have Who I Am become less of who I am when I let it go?
When you recognize EGO in yourself – just smile!!!
The minute you detect it – it is gone…
Love is not kind – love is kindness.
Innocent perception of love without judgment is grace.
Loves comes from within – all you have to do in order to fall in love and to feel the true love - to allow yourself to be who you are and let the divine energy of love to possess you and the world around you through you.