Apr
27
Written by:
adminsophia
4/27/2010 10:04 PM
True love can only be found within ourselves. If we have not taken the journey into the darkness where we meet our own soul, we can never truly know another. It is when all distractions are pushed aside and there is nothing left but the experience of our own existance that we descend into the dark realm of the unconscious or psyche.
It is our desire for unity and oneness that causes us to merge with another and form a bond of love that becomes our relationship. We are under the illusion that love is something we can only find outside of ourselves. The problem is that when we seek love on the outside we give our power to an outside entity to complete us and make us whole. We romanticize our potential mates and project onto them our “ideal.” I can’t help think of the popular phrase in the movie “Jerry McQuire” where Tom Cruise’s character says “You complete me!” It is so romantic because it appeals to our belief that a romantic partner has the power to make us whole. But this is a farce. We give someone outside of ourselves the power to make us whole we also give him or her the power to cut us in half.
Our authentic sense of self and wholeness comes in finding that unity with the divine or with the God force. I’m not referring to religious dogma but rather a spiritual law of the universe. It is our separation from God that is an illusion. We believe that we are separate and it causes us to feel alone. But the truth is we are all connected through a thread of consciousness which makes up the energetic field of the universe. We can learn to draw our nourishment from this field and restore ourselves to wholeness.
When we enter into a love affair with the divine we recognize ourselves as infinite beings who have come here to this earthly experience for a purpose. This purpose gives importance to our lives that nobody else can take from us. Our divine purpose may not have anything to do with what we do for a living but rather who we are. It can be a bit of a foreign concept to see that it is our very life force, the light of our being that contributes to the whole of the life experience. Because we are all connected through this unconscious psychic Web, our life does make a difference. When we shine our light, even if nobody can see us, we are still impacting the earth. Each little light contributes to the whole. The more complete we are within ourselves the brighter our light can shine and the more we contribute to the whole. Therefore it is safe to say that your purpose in life is to be as bright as you can, which begins with learning to just be yourself.
It is when we try to be something we are not we run into trouble. We try to fit into society, into a social structure, a group, a church, a school, or an organization we often compromise ourselves. We give up a piece of ourselves to be integrated into a group. We may give up a belief, a way of being, a way of dressing, or a way of expressing in order to find greater acceptance within the group. We also give up parts of ourselves, or hide parts of ourselves away in order to be accepted by a potential mate.
When we give up the authentic parts of ourselves to fit in, we are forced to live a non-authentic life and will never find the wholeness or happiness we seek. Our happiness is found in being authentic, being real! This means accepting ourselves exactly as we are in each moment and being gentle with ourselves when we are sick, unhappy or in pain.
True love is about being true to yourself first and foremost. When you accept yourself as you are with all your inadequacies, flaws and failures, you will be much more inclined to accept others as they are with all their inadequacies, flaws and failures. When we expect perfection in ourselves we expect perfection in others. When we reject part of ourselves we cast those part into the sea of unconsciousness or darkness which causes us to reject others for those very qualities we reject within ourselves. This is typical of narcissism. A narcissistic personality rejects all the characteristics he perceives as being weakness within himself and casts those rejected parts into the darkness of the unconscious. When he views these characteristics within others he will reject them as well and condemn them for their weaknesses. This is what we call projection. Projection is when we can’t see that the very quality we hate in others is within us.
So you can see that in order to heal ourselves and become whole within ourselves we must awaken to all that lies within us. We must be willing to take the journey into the depths of our own psyche in order to find the lost, cut off parts of ourselves. These parts may contain the areas that are unloved and unwelcomed in our lives. We may find our weaknesses, our prejudices, our hatred, our envy, our woundedness and so much more.
By Kaleah LaRoche
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