Feb
28
Written by:
adminsophia
2/28/2011 12:59 PM
Keeping
the magic of love alive: Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship. We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings. When we feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come-up. For years we have suppressed our painful feelings. Then one day we fall in love, and love makes us feel safe enough to open up and become aware of our feelings. Love opens us up and we start to feel our pain. When the unresolved feelings from childhood are coming up, we easily interpret our partner’s comments as criticism, rejection, and blame. Keeping the magic of love alive: Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship. We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings. When we feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come-up. For years we have suppressed our painful feelings. Then one day we fall in love, and love makes us feel safe enough to open up and become aware of our feelings. Love opens us up and we start to feel our pain. When the unresolved feelings from childhood are coming up, we easily interpret our partner’s comments as criticism, rejection, and blame.
Keeping the magic of love alive: Feelings that we could not express in our past suddenly flood our consciousness when we are safe to feel. Love thaws out repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship. We are all walking around with a bundle of unresolved feelings. When we feel safe to be ourselves, our hurt feelings come-up. For years we have suppressed our painful feelings. Then one day we fall in love, and love makes us feel safe enough to open up and become aware of our feelings. Love opens us up and we start to feel our pain. When the unresolved feelings from childhood are coming up, we easily interpret our partner’s comments as criticism, rejection, and blame. In the beginning of the relationship we may not be as sensitive. It takes time for our past feelings to come up. But when they do so come up, we react differently to our partners. When a man’s past comes up, he generally heads for his cave. He is overly sensitive at those times and needs a lot of acceptance. When a woman’s past comes up is when her self-esteem crashes. She scends into the well of her feelings and needs tender loving care. Understanding how the feelings of the past come up gives us a greater understanding of why our partners react the way they do. It is part of their healing process. Give them some time to cool off and become centered again. It is a paradox that because you feel safe with your partner, your deepest fears have a chance to surface. When they surface you become afraid and are unable to share what you feel. Your fear may even make you numb. When this happens the feelings that are coming up get stuck. When our unresolved feelings are being projected on our intimate partner, he or she is powerless to help us.
-John Gray